Hopelessly Romantic in a Hopelessly Un-Romantic World

I’m a 24 year old single woman living in Los Angeles. I’ve only had one serious boyfriend and many casual flings. Is it because I don’t care about relationships? No. It’s because I am the biggest hopeless romantic in the world and I don’t give up my time for just anyone. I’ve also spent the past years of my life focusing on me, my career and becoming the woman I want to be. Which I think I accomplished quite well.

I think we can all agree that everyone just wants to be loved. I’ve grown up watching romantic films, listening to The Beatles and constantly searching for ‘the one.’ My parents have a beautiful relationship while my older brother is about to get married to the love of his life. I’m surrounded by love everywhere I go. So where is my love?

I’ve realized that this generation has become numb to the idea of love. We all want it, but no one wants to put in the effort to get it. Our mobile devices have turned into the only form of communication that anyone actually knows how to use and our perception of affection is receiving a ‘like’ on an Instagram photo. Technology has done wonders, but at the same time it makes us forget the reality that we live in. We forget what it’s like to send a hand-written letter or how to have a really good conversation over a glass of wine. These things have become chores rather than enjoyable ways to show someone you care.

I’ve had my ups and downs in the dating world and I’ve learned a lot. What I’ve learned is that I can’t give up my hopelessly romantic way of thinking no matter how much the world around me changes. If I’m not being treated the way I want, then I leave. There’s millions of other men in this world that will treat me the right way and there’s no point in trying to change the one that won’t budge.

I will still hope for the man that opens my car door for me, I will still hope for the man that brings me flowers just because, and I will still hope that I marry the man of my dreams under the Eiffel Tower. I will never settle or lower my standards not only because I know what I deserve, but because I still want to see the world through rose-colored glasses. Giving up hope means giving in to this fake reality that we’ve created, and forgetting what romance really means.

As for now, I’m completely content with who I am and where I’m going. I’ve created a beautiful life that I love living and I surround myself with people who only bring me happiness. I don’t need a man to validate my existence or take care of me. I’ve learned that being single, exploring the world around me and growing as a person is so much more rewarding than being in the company of the wrong person.

We can’t give up our own idea of love and romance just because society says it should be a certain way. We have to set standards for our relationships and stick to them. If he doesn’t make you happy,  go find someone that will. Because at the end of the day, none of us should stop wanting to be hopelessly romantic.

Favorite Spots: An Ode to Los Angeles

I can’t believe I’m coming up on my one year anniversary of becoming a Los Angeles resident. This city is so exciting and I couldn’t imagine living anywhere else at this point in my life. I’ve spent the past year exploring, adventuring and loving every second of my LA life. Because really, who wouldn’t love living here?



A.O.C. – Beverly Hills


A.O.C. has become one of my favorite restaurants in Los Angeles for brunch. Their menu is top notch and the outdoor patio is so welcoming. My favorite dish: Brioche with a Bellini.

The Biltmore Hotel Bar – Downtown


The Biltmore has beautiful architecture, good drinks and even better people watching. I love the feeling of old Downtown LA in this hotel.

Zinc Cafe – Downtown

Zinc Cafe in the Arts District is such a great place for dinner or just a drink at their bar. My favorite dish: Veggie Burger with a Matcha Green Tea Latte.

Le Pain Quotidien – Manhattan Beach

Organic, healthy dishes and fabulous coffee. My favorite dish: Banana Crunola with a Non-Fat Iced Latte.

The Culver Hotel Bar – Culver City


Extremely romantic outdoor setting with cocktails named after The Wizard of Oz. The bar is just as cool as the hotel inside.

Malibu Cafe – Malibu

Malibu Cafe is a hidden oasis in Calamigos Ranch. It resembles an outdoor picnic area, but with better food and fancy s’mores for dessert. It’s worth the drive through the canyon.

South End – Venice

Hands down the best pizza I’ve ever had in California. Also,  the owners give you a wine tasting lesson and make sure to pair your food with the right bottle. All-around great service.

The Tasting Kitchen – Venice


I love this place not only for their food, but because it feels like you’re in a beautiful treehouse. My favorite dish: Eggs in a Basket.

 Bar Chloe – Santa Monica

Old Hollywood glamour in one little romantic bar nestled by the beach in Santa Monica. Truly a  hidden gem.

  Verve Coffee Roasters – Downtown

Expensive, chic, and fabulous coffee shop. The outdoor patio is a must-see.


The Griffith Observatory

There’s no better view of Los Angeles than being at the very top of Griffith Observatory. I love hiking up here and taking in the city views.

The Getty Museum

On top of a hill overlooking Los Angeles, The Getty Center is filled with gorgeous landscape, art and culture.


The most funky museum that constantly features the best exhibits such as ‘Hollywood Costumes Throughout History.’

Raleigh Studios


I’m so lucky to have the privilege to visit Raleigh Studios to see my brother and play around on the set of ‘Castle.’ Watching film and television being made from behind the scenes has always been a passion of mine.

Bradbury Building


I’m obsessed with architecture and the Bradbury Building is absolutely stunning. The Bradbury is iconic and my favorite movie, ‘500 Days of Summer,’ was filmed here.


Soul Cycle

Best. Workout. Ever. ‘Nuff said.

Pop Physique



This cardio barre class tones every part of your body and leaves you sore for days. Love the cute studios and unique classes.

Ride Bikes in Manhattan Beach





Okay, I’m a little biased because I live in Manhattan Beach. Just look at how beautiful it is!

Hike Abalone Cove


Abalone Cove is in Palos Verdes and it’s the most breathtaking hike I’ve been on. The views of the California coast never get old.

Street Food Cinema

Outdoor movies, food trucks and beers. What more could you ask for during the summer?

Brentwood Farmer’s Market

I do most of my food shopping at farmer’s markets and I LOVE the one in Brentwood. They have such a large selection of fresh produce and so many fresh flowers.

Shop on Abbot Kinney


The coolest street in Venice that has every unique store you can ever imagine. From clothes, to stationary, to home decor. Also, tons of hidden ones if you can find them through the alleyways.

Italian Chicken Bake

I’ve been on a massive Pinterest healthy recipe binge lately. When I came across this easy-to-make Italian Chicken Bake from The Pinning Mama, I had to try it ASAP. I’m always looking for quick and simple healthy meals because I don’t have a lot of time during the week. This recipe seemed like the perfect dinner after a long day at work.

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  1. Boneless Skinless Chicken Breasts
  2. Fresh Tomatoes
  3. Pesto Sauce
  4. Shredded Mozzarella Cheese

Step 1: Go to Trader Joe’s for delicious foods. (Any grocery store works, really. But we all know TJ’s is the best.)

Step 2: Pre-heat oven to 400 degrees. Pour yourself a glass of wine.

Step 3: Place boneless skinless chicken breast in baking pan. Cover chicken with as much pesto sauce as you see fit. Cut fresh tomatoes into big slices to put on top of pesto sauce. Sprinkle shredded mozzarella cheese over entire pan.

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Step 4: Place pan into oven for 30-40 minutes.

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Step 5: Ohh lala! Chicken bake is complete.

Step 6: Serve over a plate of rice. I opted for Brown Rice, Red Rice and Black Barley medley from TJ’s.

Step 7: ENJOY!

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How To: Land Your Fashion Dream Job According To An Insider Part II



In a two part guest series, Ashley Altstadt let’s you in on her tips and recommendations for going after what you want, and ultimately landing a coveted spot in the fashion industry. This is part II.


Do as much as you can on the side.

When I’m not at my current job, I’m writing for online fashion magazines. Start a blog, take photos and show off your work anyway that you can. Companies want to see someone that takes the time to do what they love. Having a blog will also show off your personality and point of view to future employers.

Dress the part.

When you’re trying to land your dream job, you want to be taken seriously. I always go for a tailored pant or a midi dress for an interview. Employers want to see that you can put yourself together, but you also have your own…

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How To: Land Your Fashion Dream Job According To An Insider


Ashley Alstadt Post

Ashley Altstadt completed seven internships throughout college, studied abroad, and got her dream job right out of school. With an internship at InStyle and Paige Denim under her belt, it’s no surprise that Joie, Current Elliott and Equipment scooped her up without thinking twice. In a two part guest series, Altstadt let’s you in on her tips and recommendations for going after what you want, and ultimately landing a coveted spot in the fashion industry.


How To: Get Your Fashion Dream Job

By: Ashley Altstadt

At the age of 24 I’ve just landed my fashion dream job of working as an International Sales Assistant for Joie, Current/Elliott and Equipment. My duties involve helping to manage accounts internationally, while also prepping for appointments abroad. My love of fashion and worldwide travel has finally come into one, and this is how I got here.


Throughout my years of college, I…

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